When our oldest daughter, Ashley, was 16, she was allowed to date. But I made it clear I wanted to interview any boys who asked her out.I still remember that first interview. Kevin showed up at my office riding his motorcycle (?!). I bought him a soft drink to keep things as informal as possible, and then, after several minutes of small talk, I looked him in the eye.
"You know, Kevin, I was a teenage boy once," I said. "And I want you to know that I remember what the sex drive is like for an 18-year-old young man." His eyes were getting bigger-he was really listening.
"I expect you to treat my daughter just like God would have you treat His finest creation-with all respect and dignity. Whether you go out with her one time or 100 times, I want to be able to look you in the eyes and ask you if you are treating my daughter with respect and dignity-especially in the physical area. God may want her to be another man's wife, so you better be very careful to keep this relationship pure."
On my way home I wondered if I was being too intrusive. Then over dinner my doubts evaporated when I shared what had happened.
It wasn't just Ashley's response of appreciation. It was Benjamin, who was 14 at the time, who put it all in context. He said, "You know, Dad, I hope that the father of a girl I ask out wants to meet with me. I'll know I'm at the right house if that happens!"
The reason I met with Kevin is that I believe Barbara and I, as parents, have been entrusted by God to protect our children's innocence. I'm convinced that parents need to possess a godly jealousy that ruthlessly protects our children from evil.